Friday, March 04, 2011

First Step, Taken

First of all, thanks so much to all of you for your comments and e-mails. I really appreciate them.

Yesterday, was an icebreaker of sorts. I had no idea what to expect and the best thing that I could think of to tell Bailey was, "We are going to talk to some people." Bailey's reaction? "While you talk, can I play at the park?"

Bailey's wish was somewhat granted. After the therapist/ counsellor asked Bailey tons of questions- ranging from what is your address to what school subjects do you like to what do you think of your teacher and more- he got to go with another counsellor to the play room while we had a chance to speak with the therapist/ counsellor privately.

It felt a little like I was betraying Bailey's confidence. Like I was being a tattle tale. I just had to keep repeating to myself that I was doing this to help, not hurt, Bailey. It hurts to have to label your child as having problems dealing with anger- we still deal with temper tantrums almost daily and periods of emotional tsunamis that I am sure sometimes are going to drown us all. At school, his behavior is mostly the same, which left his teacher saying, "I don't want to have to reprimand Bailey multiple times a day, but I have to because I care about him."

I know the feeling.

Hopefully, we are on our way to something better.


Gina said...

I think you talking to someone and Bailey talking to someone hopefully things will get better. I bet the therapist will be able to help.

You know, I have been thinking about you since your last post. Worrying about you. I just got your email before coming to your blog. So, anyway.....I'm here for you. You know that : )

Connie said...

Hi Trisha,
It's your first cousin connie. We are all communicating here in the US about how you all are. I just talked to Mom who talked to your Mom and said we might be able to get to you through this blog site. I heard about Bailey in the street. Thank God he is okay! How are you all doing? I don't know if you have email capabilities. Here is mine. I can't imagine all you are going through at this very moment. Your children are precious. When I look at their pictures I see you as a little girl in my wedding you were equally a little darling. I love you and know God has sent many Angels to protect and comfort you and yours and the entire country as you journey through this time of crisis.
Love, Connie