First of all, thanks so much to all of you for your comments and e-mails. I really appreciate them.
Yesterday, was an icebreaker of sorts. I had no idea what to expect and the best thing that I could think of to tell Bailey was, "We are going to talk to some people." Bailey's reaction? "While you talk, can I play at the park?"
Bailey's wish was somewhat granted. After the therapist/ counsellor asked Bailey tons of questions- ranging from what is your address to what school subjects do you like to what do you think of your teacher and more- he got to go with another counsellor to the play room while we had a chance to speak with the therapist/ counsellor privately.
It felt a little like I was betraying Bailey's confidence. Like I was being a tattle tale. I just had to keep repeating to myself that I was doing this to help, not hurt, Bailey. It hurts to have to label your child as having problems dealing with anger- we still deal with temper tantrums almost daily and periods of emotional tsunamis that I am sure sometimes are going to drown us all. At school, his behavior is mostly the same, which left his teacher saying, "I don't want to have to reprimand Bailey multiple times a day, but I have to because I care about him."
I know the feeling.
Hopefully, we are on our way to something better.