The conversation went something like this:
MIL: I don't think you should buy presents for your nephews and niece for Christmas this year.
Me: Oh, I already bought some things.....
MIL: Why? Now your sisters-in-law are going to have to spend more money on YOUR kids.
Me: They don't have to. I don't expect a return gift. This is something I want to do for the kids for Christmas. Christmas is important to me .
MIL: Think about your Sisters-in-law. Maybe they don't have money to spend.
Me: I understand. I have presents for Bailey and Sophie, too. Can't we just tell the kids they are from Santa?
MIL: You know, New Years is more important HERE.
Me: I do. I am sorry.
I feel.... angry but mostly hurt and I have no idea what to do next. I can't return the presents without a receipt and since I bought them back in October, the receipts are long gone. Why does everything have to turn into a battlefield?
I compromise on lots of things. I am not trying to be rigid or stuck in my ways. it is just that when you are far from home sometimes you hold on to things tighter. Christmas is one of those things for me.
Guess tomorrow I will find myself again back at Mister Donuts, trying to sort this all out.