I understand how some people can just dismiss ADHD as bad parenting. But, what they don't understand is the difference between won't and can't. ADHD makes a lot of can'ts. Can't keep your hands from drumming on the desk even though the teacher has warned you about it many, many times. Can't stop yourself from hitting even though you will get punished for it. Can't stop your mind from jumping to subject to subject even if it means you miss important information.
All of the can'ts make relationships pretty hard. Add to that a pretty heavy helping of low self confidence and it can make the smallest of tasks seem like climbing Mount Everest. And, Bailey has to do that every single day just to do normal day to day things. No wonder he collapses into bed every night, asleep almost before his head hits the pillow.
As much as I struggle with Bailey's ADHD, I know that he struggles ten times harder. Sometimes I wish ADHD was an illness that you could see like a scratched up knee. Then, it would be easy to tell whether the medicine was working or a new strategy is needed. Wash it off, add a little antibacterial spray and a band aid and wait. Simple. (Yes, I realize this is an extreme overgeneralization.) With ADHD things are far from simple and I am just beginning to understand how complicated it really is.